Thursday, September 06, 2007

Beware of Garbage Trucks

How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood?
Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day?
Unless you're the Terminator, for an instant you're probably set back on your heels. However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly he/she can get back their focus on what's important.
Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson.I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab.
Here's what happened.
I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station.We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us.My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches!
The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident,whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us.My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy.And I mean, he was friendly.
So, I said, "Why did you just do that?This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!"
And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, "The Law of theGarbage Truck."Many people are like garbage trucks.They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment.As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it.And if you let them, they'll dump it on you.When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally.You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on.You'll be happy you did.
So this was it: The "Law of the Garbage Truck."
I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me?And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people:at work, at home, on the streets?It was that day I said, "I'm not going to do it anymore."
I began to see garbage trucks.Like in the movie "The Sixth Sense," the little boy said, "I see DeadPeople."Well, now "I see Garbage Trucks."
I see the load they're carrying.I see them coming to drop it off.And like my Taxi Driver, I don't make it a personal thing; I just smile,wave, wish them well, and I move on.
One of my favorite football players of all time, Walter Payton, did this every day on the football field.He would jump up as quickly as he hit the ground after being tackled.He never dwelled on a hit.Payton was ready to make the next play his best.
Good leaders know they have to be ready for their next meeting.
Good parents know that they have to welcome their children home fromschool with hugs and kisses.
Leaders and parents know that they have to be fully present, and at their best for the people they care about.The bottom line is that successful people do not let Garbage Trucks takeover their day.
What about you?
What would happen in your life, starting today, if you let more garbagetrucks pass you by?Here's my bet.
You'll be happier.Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so..Love the people who treat you right.Forget about the ones who don't.Believe that everything happens for a reason.
If you get a chance , TAKE IT!
If it changes your life , LET IT!
Nobody said it would be easy...They just promised it would be worth it!
We cannot all do great things but we can do small things with greatlove.Mother Theresa
Forgiveness doesn't make the other person right, it makes you free.Stormie Omartian
Some of us need structure and Jesus. Stay safe and blessed for the restof your life.Al Haskins Jr.

The incomparable Mrs A sent me this today. It was just the thing I needed to hear right now.

8 comments:

Rick said...

True dat. And if you smile and wave... it REALLY pisses 'em off!!! ;-)

Al said...

Rick: And that makes you feel even better.

Stacy The Peanut Queen said...

That is SO true!

Al said...

PQ: Sometimes we just need to be reminded of things we already know.

~grey said...

excellent!

inspiring!

and oh sooo true!

Al said...

~d~ Thanks. It sure helped me out when I got it, so I thought it would be nice to share it.

rennratt said...

I followed this rule today when I had my hair cut.

As usual, I ended up with the stylist that "had an axe to grind". She was not mean, per se. Simply VERY, VERY GROUCHY.

I responded with kindness and smiles.

The result? My hair cut was FREE - and she is sending my hair to Locks of Love FOR ME, compliments of the salon!

I wasn't expecting anything in return, but I got it in SPADES!

Al said...

Renn: We have a guy down at work that grows his hair long and gets it whackked so he can donate it to a similar program for cancer patients. It's a hell of a good cause.
And free is good, too.